I realized the other day that it’s been a long time since I connected with you! I apologize for being so out of touch, but if you’re been a part of the Synergy Organizing Community for awhile, you know that I’ve recently had some health problems that really knocked me down. I was surprised at how hard it hit me to tell the truth, because I’ve always been the kind of person who keeps getting up, dusting herself off, and forging on forward… no matter what.
But that attitude wasn’t going to work this time (because it’s part of what led me to being in the state I was in), and after spending the last three months saying NO to more than I ever thought I could in the past, I’ve had some really big realizations.
First, as women, we tend to take on more than we can really handle. And because in the last 50-60 years or so we’ve taken on a much more masculine approach to how we work through our daily activities, our female bodies suffer.
I am close to completing a course on Femininity where I’ve really come to understand just how much my own physical body has been drained by taking this masculine approach to everything (this included clutter clearing!), and how much it’s going to take to heal the damage that has been done.
I’ve had to ask for help a lot – a lot more than I’ve ever been comfortable with actually. And even though I find that every time I’m “forced” to ask for help, I’m always amazed at how others are willing to step up when we have the courage to ask for the help we need.
Second, I’ve realized that chaos isn’t so bad, and chaos will always exist because it’s part of the natural system of life. Now, don’t get me wrong, I’m not saying that living in a cluttered chaotic home isn’t so bad – it can be really overwhelming, energetically draining, and unhealthy.
What I’m saying is that there are times when chaos can actually be beneficial to us. For instance, during digestion. All the food we put in our bodies enters the stomach where it’s churned into chaos. However, this chaotic “mess” is then is passed into the rest of the digestive system where it nourishes us – it’s part of the natural cycle.
What I’ve realized about my own situation is that I needed to surrender into the chaos of the healing of my body – accept that I needed to sleep 10-12 hours per day, even though that feels like it goes against everything I was ever taught about getting anywhere in life.
Instead of trying to keep everything so structured in my life, I learned that I had enough order in my home through the organizing systems and processes we had put in place that I was able to finally let go of the need to do it all and really let myself rest.
This is one of the huge benefits of clearing your clutter and getting the right systems into place to support you, it gives you the space and time you need to breathe and rest when you need to.
There’s much more to tell about my own situation as it has related to the clutter clearing process, which I’m sure I’ll share with you over the coming weeks. However, I wanted to let you know that I’m still hosting the Reclaiming Space Community over on Facebook – it’s been one of the few things I decided to keep up with during my time of healing because it’s been so much fun to connect with so many people in the group there.
Lots of discussion, lots of support, and lots of great resources to help you with your own clutter clearing efforts.
I’d love it if you’d come over and join us. Go here:
and request that I add you to the group. I look forward to connecting with you there!